sábado, 6 de febrero de 2016

9 ERRORS that women make in the RELATIONSHIP

9 errors that women make in the relationship As a relationship coach, I’m on the front lines every day hearing all the latest and most common ways that otherwise good people mess up their intimate relationships. While there are a million stories in the big city, the truth is that breakups usually tend to fall into a few primary categories.
We all have our own unique challenges related to the way we see and interact with the world around us. The good news is that a lot of our issues could be avoided if more people were aware of the huge differences in how men and women navigate the world.

So here they are in no particular order…the 9 biggest mistakes women make in relationships.

1. You Don’t Know Your Own Value
This might be one of the most common issues. Do you chase after bad boys who treat you poorly and only want them more? Are you attracted to all the unavailable guys? Are you afraid to ask for what you want? Do you put up with nonsense expecting that “one day” it will magically change? If so, welcome to the club — you are far from alone.

2. You Over-Rely On Your Masculine Energy
Many of my clients are highly successful women and well known in their communities. They’re doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs, but they can’t attract — or keep — a man.
Ironically, their success is oftentimes a result of the fact that deep inside, these women also have huge doubts about their self-value. (Do you see a theme here?) In fact, it’s their overcompensation that 


3. You Simply Don’t ‘Get’ Or Understand Men
Women who understand how men work and appreciate them for their masculine gifts have a way of kissing frogs and turning them into princes.

Likewise, women who are jaded, frustrated or have been burned too many times can kiss a good man and turn him into a frog. The fact is, women are far more complex and men are fairly simple creatures who actually are pre-wired to want to serve you — if you know how to inspire them.

4. You Try To Change Him Or Don’t Accept Him As He Is
There’s nothing that turns off a man like meeting a woman he’s trying to impress and then having her immediately try to turn him into her latest project she is going to fix.
Maybe it’s criticizing the way he dresses, insulting his table manners, or ridiculing his appearance or grooming habits.


5. You Don’t Really Appreciate What Men Do For You
On the other extreme of women not knowing their value are the self-centered women who seemingly believe they are “owed” something.

They are not grateful that a man opted to spend his time, talent, or treasure with her. In fact, they have an attitude of entitlement. You may be surprised how many women stay in relationships with men — or even multiple men — for the gifts and prizes.


6. You Don’t Share Your Gifts
The gift of the masculine sex is his ability to protect and provide. In fact, he takes great pride in it and will oftentimes even willingly risk his health or life in order to do that effectively. In fact, elderly men who seemingly “lose their purpose” or ability to provide as effectively after retirement may spiral into depression, suffer anxiety or even die prematurely when they no longer feel “needed.” Those two things are that hard-wired into masculine energy that they are a matter of life and death.
So what, you may ask, is the gift of the feminine sex?

The essence of femininity is the innate desire to nurture or look after your man. It’s about reciprocation and putting one another first. If you’re not doing that, you’re more interested in taking than giving, and healthy relationships aren’t about taking.

7. You Create Drama Instead Of Memories
As I said earlier, men are relatively simple creatures who navigate the world via logic and reason — it just doesn’t make sense to be all worked up constantly.
They love to prove their value by solving problems and making things easy. They tend to be laid back and easygoing when they’re not working, and they also typically hate to waste effort if they can’t see a potential upside.
That’s why men quickly tire of the drama that arises when women get caught up in emotion and upset. Just be aware that if you kind of like the attention you get when you stir things up, it just might turn into a very short-term gain, if you know what I mean.


8. You Either Didn’t Build Trust — Or You Broke It
If a man is going to consider a future with you, he has got to believe that you respect him and have his back while he has yours.

Inside every little boy is a desire to grow up and be a hero and a good man who feels connected to you will give his all to be your hero. In fact, he may even give his life to protect you.
His commitment is that deep. In return, he must be able to trust that you have his best interests in mind also. Men also tend to strongly resonate with the concept of honor which is the backbone of the military code.


9. You Tried To Tie Him Down Too Soon
This may be one of the biggest mistakes women make over and over again. After one date, one kiss, or even one intimate encounter, women often seem to think they’re now magically in a “relationship.”



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